INTERVIEW | Quiniece Sheppard, author of Before the Lights Go Out!

INTERVIEW | Quiniece Sheppard, author of Before the Lights Go Out!

Quiniece, describe yourself for our visitors.

I am an author and Christian motivational speaker. The first book I published in April 2009 was called “The Seven Deadly Sexual Sins”, which is a book about deliverance.  The second book I published is called “Before the Lights Go Out: 11 Keys to Achieve Real Physical Intimacy, which is an inspirational self-help book on how to achieve intimacy in your relationships.  I also wrote a free downloadable e-book as well called “Walking the Path to Real Love: 12 Steps to Practice Abstinence and Celibacy” which is available as a free download on Lulu.

I am founder of I am the Chase Ministries, LLC which is a singles women’s ministry whose mission is to promote abstinence and celibacy.  I am also founder of Chasing Books Christian Book Club that was formed to support our African American self-published authors like myself and those who have published with a traditional publisher such as AuthorHouse, Xlibris, etc.  I wanted to form this book club as a way to support our own people of color and also let the world know that self-publishers have great books as well and only need a platform to showcase their talent.

I travel often doing book signings and speaking at conferences and high schools.  Besides writing and speaking, I am also active in the church I attend and work a full time job as a legal assistant.  My schedule is very busy, but writing is my passion because it allows me to minister to others.

How do you find time to connect with God?

I connect with God many different ways such as praying, going to church regularly and reading my bible.  Since I am single and have no children, I have plenty of time to connect with God because he is the sole reason why I do what I do.  I’m a Christian, so I can’t do anything without him.  I realize that whatever you make a priority is what you spend the most time doing so God is my focus and priority so it’s natural that I spend time with him on a regular basis.

Who are your favorite authors? Favorite books?

I love Joyce Myers books, Hill Harper writes book full of substance and wisdom and I just finished reading his book “The Wealth Cure and gained a lot of wisdom and insight. I am currently reading a few of Iyanla Vanzant’s books called “Peace from broken pieces’ and “In the meantime”.  I also enjoyed reading a book titled Cupcake Brown and Color Me Butterfly, which I put all these on my top ten reads.

Tell us about your current book?

My current book, “Before the Lights Go Out: 11 Keys to Achieve Real Physical Intimacy” is a book about what defines real intimacy.  There is so much divorce and separation in our society right now that people are not staying together.  There is a lack of unity and commitment.  Also, our view of what love is supposed to look like has been tainted with all the dating sites on the internet and dating reality shows that shows us the quick version of how to find a mate, when in reality there is so much more to the process.

So, this book was written to help people learn the biblical principles of what marriage should resemble and it also prepare us for marriage. I thought it was so important to not only talk about these things, but also present real life experiences about the pitfalls of marriage and staying committed and being able to long suffer with one another as the bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 13, that love suffers long, is patient, kind, not envious, boastful, etc. so I decided to talk to my family members including my parents who have been married for 50 years of what it took for them to stay together.

This book is practical and filled with so much insight and wisdom on what it takes to make a relationship work.  What’s missing is there is no real intimacy, meaning a spiritual and an emotional connection.  We have mistaken physical intimacy for intimacy when it is not as any two people can have sex without having a real bond or connection.  The book was written to bring unity back to marriages and also provide a foundation for singles on what to look for in a potential relationship that will last, and not pattern our behavior after the false images we see represented in the media.

What’s next for you?

I am holding a writers teleconference for authors, writers and potential authors on January 15, 2012 to share some of my personal experiences with publishing and also marketing tips as well.  Also on April 14, 2012, I will be holding my 2nd Annual Worth the Wait Women’s Conference in Columbia, MD.  In between those dates, I have several book signings lined up the end of this month and early February to promote love and commitment especially since Valentines is coming up.

Where can visitors find you online?

People can reach me at my website at or join my book club at  I am also active on LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter.  My twitter name is dladyque and you can search for Quiniece Sheppard on Facebook or LinkedIn to connect with me there.